by Jayant Kalawar
Aloneness happens when there is no dependence.
No dependence on possessing things.
No dependence on having any relationships.
No dependence on having any obligations to family, friends, community or society.
No dependence on any give and take transactions.
Loneliness happens when there is dependence on any of those things and one is deprived of them.
Dependence followed by deprivation causes loneliness.
Dependence on owning a car or home takes away from the capacity to be alone. One may own a car or home and yet not be dependent.
Dependence comes from an attachment to a particular object, whether the car or home.
Moving from owning a car today to not owning one tomorrow, in an equanimous way, requires considerable Aloneness capacity.
Aloneness can be cultivated to some extent.
But to have deep and stable Aloneness capacity requires a cognitive shift.
Cognitive shift of how you view yourself, how you view the space and time world around you.
Materialist view of yourself and the world leads to dependency. Dependency on the material.
Materialists cannot be alone.
Religious view of yourself and the world leads to dependency. Dependency on the material and God.
Religious people cannot be alone.
The languages that we use today have emerged from and constrained by materialist and religious views of the world.
The world of the Aloneness cannot be described in the languages we use today.
It can only be contemplated, along the way to disabling our dependencies.
It can only be contemplated as we are enabling the cognitive shift to Aloneness.
To sustain oneself on this path we need the blessings of the Devi. Aum Sri Matre NamahA.
This contemplative note is based on my interpretation of a discourse on certain verses of The Naishkarmya Siddhi of SureshvarA by Swami Shantananda of Chinmaya Vrindavan, Cranbury, NJ on October 25th 2018.