September 2018: The Calm before the Storm?

Devi Kalaratri source Wikipedia 180808

The Destroyer of Ignorance and Confusion – Aum Namo KAlarAtreya NamAhA (Source: Wikipedia, Devi Kalratri, Sanghasri, Kalighat, Kolkata, 2010)

Summary: the level of intensity of the putative physical and economic storms in 2019, with felt impacts into early 2020, is likely to be signaled in political events and directions in the USA in the first half of November 2018 and then in January 2019.

The storms of 2019 may impact up to 10 to 15% of people across the globe in some mix of physical and economic outcomes in a very low to high range. There are no cookie cutter solutions to identify who is more likely to be impacted and how much and what to do about it. Assessment of individual horoscopes can help in this regard. Those who do consistent sAdhanA and connect with the Devi are likely to have less impact.

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The grahAs will be showering their blessings upon us this September.

Venus will be transiting into its home base Libra on September 2nd and staying there until end of the year. Venus will promote a sense of material well-being and harmony, after a month being farthest away from Earth, hence weak.

Mercury will end its long sojourn of the last few months in Cancer and transit into Leo on September 2nd and then into its home base of Virgo on September 19th. Mercury then joins Venus on October 6th and moves into Scorpio on October 27th. Mercury may not cause much volatility between now and October 27th (except a brief few days September 22nd to 25th, when it comes under passing influence of Rahu-Ketu field), and thus helping better communications and analysis, further adding to the harmony component of Venus.

Mars is strong and exalted in Capricorn between now and November 5th, providing a positive energy to those who are adept at channeling its energies constructively by connecting with Devi DurgA. There is an exception period when Mars energy may be quite disturbed (not as intense as the June-July / Early August time frame) as it once again crosses the much weakened Rahu-Ketu field, between September 19th and 30th. Disturbed Mars energy shows up as natural disasters on Earth, including wild fires and volcanic eruptions, military and police action and generally aggressive interactions and thoughts at personal level. But overall Mars will still provide positive energies especially to Devi sadhakAs.

Sun is in its home base of Leo until mid-September and then in Virgo until mid-October. Sun will bless those of us who seek to remember their IshTa DevatAs and chant the GAyatri mantrA.

Jupiter will be generally strong in Libra between now and October 11th.  In turn it supports Saturn to be strong in Sagittarius during this time.

Rahu-Ketu axis is moving between now and December 5th. Its negative influence is weak at this time.

So you see the overall picture emerging: a mostly positive environment may be expected between now and October 11th.

So what made me headline this post Calm before the Storm?

Well, I see this to be most positive period before storm clouds begin to signal themselves, and the storm momentum builds up. Watch out for the signals during the following periods in the next year or so and make your own assessments (I may likely keep coming back to this in future posts opening up more details). The way to approach and develop a series of potential scenarios is to apply the intensity of the outcome from one event set as the starting point of amplification of the next time period. So here goes:

Jupiter will go through the influence of a weak Rahu-Ketu field from October 22nd to Nov 14th, with peak dissonance between November 1st and 14th. At the same time Mercury will go through the same field November 1st-2nd. And Mars will be weak as it ends its long transit in Capricorn on November 5th. This may likely cause volatility in political and financial arenas combined with unfocussed energy, especially in the USA. All this points to chances that the November 6th mid-term elections in USA may end up giving a weak result for the current US president.

The Rahu-Ketu field will be strong between December 5th 2018 and March 6th 2019. On January 10th 2019 when the newly elected US Congress convenes the Rahu-Ketu field will be at its peak intensity. The result of the mid-term elections will likely be amplified and may likely begin impacting the ability of the current US president to carry out strong positive leadership actions in 2019.

So by end of January 2019 we may have a sense of how 2019 may likely unfold. Any sense of political weakness in the USA may translate into financial and economic weakness not only in the USA but throughout the globe.

The Rahu-Ketu field will be positioned to have intense impact between May 20th 2019 and August 19th 2019 – this one has particular potential to trigger both natural disasters and war like situations between multiple nations around the globe. This in turn may have negative impact on health and economic situations of large populations.

Fall-out from the May-August 2019 events may likely be felt in physical and economic terms, almost like after-tremors across the world, from November 13th 2019 to February 2nd 2020.

To sum up: the level of intensity of the putative physical and economic storms in 2019, with felt impacts into early 2020, is likely to be signaled in political events and directions in the USA in the first half of November 2018 and then in January 2019.

I may cover topics of how to begin to prepare and position for 2019 in the next few months.

The storms of 2019 may impact up to 10 to 15% of people across the globe in some mix of physical and economic outcomes in a very low to high range. There are no cookie cutter solutions to identify who is more likely to be impacted and how much and what to do about it. Assessment of individual horoscopes can help in this regard. Those who do consistent sAdhanA and connect with the Devi are likely to have less impact.

II Aum MAtre NamAhA II

I practice Systems Approach to Vedic Astrology as propounded by the late Professor V.K. Choudhry and now being carried forward by his son Shri K. Rajesh Chowdhary.

Celebrating the DevA Savitr in Leo August 17th – September 16th

Sri Gayatri MAtA by Raja Ravi Verma Source Wikipedia

ॐ श्री मात्रे नमः Source: Illustration by Raja Ravi Verma as published at https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gayatri

Source: https://sreenivasaraos.com/2012/10/07/sri-gayatri-part-one/

This morning, August 17th, the Sun rose in Leo. Ever auspicious, the Deva Savitr in Leo is even more so. He transits Leo in the period between August 17th and September 16th in the 21st century. The Deva channels Sri Gayatri MAtA’s blessings to us.

This 30 day period in 2018 is likely to be more positive than the same time in the last two years, when the Rahu-Ketu axis was afflicting Leo (and we experienced eclipses September 1st and 16th 2016 and August 21st 2017). This year Leo is clear and the Sun can bless us unhindered. Late last year the Rahu-Ketu axis moved on to Cancer and we experienced eclipses in June-July 2018 – and many of us have just about begun working our way out of some rather stressful situations at personal and social levels.

However (and there is usually a ‘however’), Mercury and Venus may send some mixed signals to quite a few of us during the next two weeks to September 2nd 2018.

Summary: Auspicious Sun in Leo, Volatile Mercury in Cancer, Weak Venus in Virgo. Sun will transit into Leo August 17th 2018 and will be there until September 16th 2018. Sun in Leo is auspicious for all signs in different ways. For example, Leo may show leadership, while Virgo works on inner peace and Gemini starts new initiatives. Capricorn may benefit from partnerships and inheritance, while Pisces may find it easy to win in competitions and get financial benefits. And so on.

However, Mercury, may throw a spanner in the works until September 2nd as it moves slowly out of Cancer. It makes for volatility in communications and analysis, in turn impacting volatility in many areas in our lives, including financial markets.  In this case, the volatility of Mercury is mostly related to Moon transiting from one house to another. Dates to watch for mixed and missed signals: August 17th-21st (Moon transiting from Libra through Scorpio and into Sagittarius), 23rd, 25th/26th, 28th, 30th and September 1st-2nd.

Meanwhile, Venus continues to be weak and distant in Virgo until September 2nd. Luxury items and sales targeted at women have less chance of success and this will be reflected in the financial markets as well.

So September 3rd to 16th may be less volatile, more enjoyable. More on that later.

August 2018: Mars Receding, Venus Distant

Durga MAtA by Photo by Soumik Dey on Unsplash 180807

ॐ श्री मात्रे नमः (Photo by Soumik Dey on Unsplash)

The heat waves and the wild fires that seem to have gripped many areas in the last few weeks may begin to recede, as Mars begins to move out of the Rahu-Ketu field August 7the. Time to step back and assess the impact of Mars transit through the Rahu-Ketu field, acting out in different areas of your lives in June and July. Take some time by yourself to scan your physical and emotional health and that of your loved ones. We have a breather here – to calm down and heal. Those of you who have continually been connected with MA DurgA would have sensed the protection and blessings and a sense of calm, even as the fires raged, emotional and physical, in various shapes and forms, all around us.

In August 2018, Venus will be most distant from Earth. It will be seen in the sky to be transiting the zodiac of Virgo. A milder form of confusion (unlike the raging storms of Mars) is likely between August 8th and 17th, with peaks around August 10th to 13th. We may see this manifested in the social and political arenas and in turn inducing volatility in financial markets. Fashion and luxury goods sectors may be particularly impacted. The inclination, for many of us, may be towards being more analytical and less emotional – and thus out of balance in situations which require emotions to play.

Usual caveat applies: the experience may be in different areas of life for each ascendant sign and intensity depends on particular ascendant degrees. Those who continually connect with the Devi are blessed with strength and calm to better navigate through the squalls and storms of life.

Mars in Turbulent Fields: Astro-Weather Watch / Warning May 2nd to November 5th 2018

Mars Passing Through Turbulence Derek Thompson Unsplash 180518

Mars in Turbulent Fields (Photo by Derek Thomson on Unsplash)

Many of you have already noticed natural events, whether freaky storms, earth tremors or volcanic activity, since May 2nd. There is more to come, as Mars moves through turbulent fields between now and early November 2018, both in natural and human generated events with potentially negative impacts.

Here are the date ranges to watch out for such occurrences and within that some potential peak dates, when you may experience unexpected / sudden events.

Date ranges to be cautious and observe:

May 31st to June 15th (with May 31st to June 8th being peak dates for potential sudden / unexpected events to commence).

July 10th to July 28th (chances of sudden / unexpected events: July 10th to July 19th)

September 21st to September 30th (peak dates: September 21st to September 26th).

Besides the natural and mass human generated events, which we will all observe, each of us may experience events in specific areas of our personal and family lives depending on ascendant birth sign (using sidereal zodiac). Here are some pointers (if you want empower yourself to surf these waves, there are ways of doing it):

Aries: There may be some events relating to career and social status that impact your health, physically and emotionally.

Taurus: There is potential for some sudden events for your parents, advanced studies and good fortune in general.

Gemini: Some potential for loss of income and connections with elder siblings and mentors is seen.

Cancer: Potential for loss in career and social status may impact your spouse / partner.

Leo: You may find yourself in debt or disputes with your parents (or those in authority), obstacles in advanced studies and during some long distance travels.

Virgo: Expect some obstacles and endings in your emotional relationships and creative pursuits.

Libra: There may be some endings in personal and business partnerships.

Scorpio: Some disputes and debt situations may be seen with younger siblings, colleagues and any small business interests you may have.

Sagittarius: Some losses in your emotional relationships and creative pursuits may impact general sense of well-being for yourself and your family.

Capricorn: You may experience some personal impact due to sudden change in your financial asset, home or mother related situations.

Aquarius: You may experience some setbacks relating to small business situations, younger siblings and communication clarity.

Pisces: There may be changes in family situation that impact income and relationship with elder siblings and mentors.

Energy Boost from the Sun in Aries: April 14th to May 15th 2018

Sun in Aries 2018 Photo by Tanishq Tiwari on Unsplash

Glow in the High Energy of Sun in Aries (Photo by Tanishq Tiwari on Unsplash)

By Jayant Kalawar

When the Sun transits through Aries between mid-April and mid-May, most of us sense a boost of energy in different areas of life, depending on your ascendant birth sign (using sidereal, not tropical zodiac). If you are in touch with your energy flows through your inner work, this is something you will sense. You will be able to channel this burst of energy appropriately to heal yourself and others around you.

This year though, Mercury is still hanging around in Pisces (where it has been going back and forth since early March) and will be there until May 9th. Mercury in Pisces makes for generally less than effective communications for most of us. This is exacerbated for Aries (may cause some losses, increased expenses), Libra (mis-communications may lead to disputes) and Leo (may cause challenges in career and social status). Those situations may likely be resolved after May 9th.

Also, there will be one other major movement in the next few weeks. Mars will be moving into Capricorn on May 3rd and will be hanging its hat there until November 6th. In Capricorn Mars is energized and is generally positive for most signs, provided we channel its energies appropriately (so Leo ascendants may sense great energy flows which make them competitive at work and help win in disputes. Make sure to manage it with the long run in mind, not just the short run wins i.e. do not burn bridges for immediate applause, bring people along with you). This year Mars will be heading into rather rough astro weather in the June-July time frame, with the Moon’s orbit disturbing the Sun-Earth gravitational field (yes the July solar and lunar eclipses are just one measure of this disturbance). Mars energies will be weakened considerably. Many of us are likely to feel the stress of this sudden drop in energy levels in different ways. Those with Gemini, Leo and Aquarius ascendants need to be especially aware: prioritize and focus to conserve energies, to get through positively in the June-July period. I may write more about this next month.

To end on a positive note, currently, between April 13th to 20th, there is a Venus-Jupiter alignment going on, which is giving positive energies to many of us. May be a nice time to enjoy art and culture (Venus) and a general sense of well-being, blessed by expansive energies of Jupiter.

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Cosmic Musical Symphony: Venus and Mercury move on to Pisces March 2nd 2018

Venus and Mercury Playing Musical Chairs March 2018

Venus and Mercury In Cosmic Musical Symphony (Photo by Jonatan Pie on Unsplash)

Venus and Mercury will move to Pisces on March 2nd. Venus will be seen in Pisces until March 25th. Mercury will be seen in Pisces for much longer: until May 8th.

The effect of this movement is likely to be relatively positive in March for Gemini, Cancer, Virgo, Sagittarius and Capricorn.

Those with the following ascendants may wish to be a little more attentive in certain areas in March:

Aries: Some potential for disputes and / or health issue with your personal and business partners.

Taurus: Some impact may be seen on your creativity, children and romantic endeavors.

Leo: Potential impact on career, interactions with younger colleagues, siblings, new initiatives and personal partners.

Libra: Potential for stress and health issues. May be appropriate time for quiet long meditative retreat.

Scorpio: Some impact on interactions with mentors and elder siblings and some losses on investment income.

Aquarius: There is some potential for changes / endings if you have plans for long distance travel or advanced studies, or attending spiritual programs – new options will open up. Be attentive to possibility of impact on relationships with personal partners.

Pisces: Potential for some endings with some personal and business partners. Open new ways of doing things.

The Ebb and Flow of the Aquarian Month 2018: February 13th to March 14th

Waxing Moon At Sunrise, Signals end of Maha Shiva Ratri. In 2018 it was on February 14th.

Waxing crescent Moon rising at Dawn signals end of Maha Shiva Ratri. In 2018 it was on February 14th (Photo by Sadman Sakib on Unsplash).

At the current point in the Earth’s precession (which is approximately a 26,000 year cycle), the Aquarian month occurs between February 13th to March 14th : the Sun appears to be in the Aquarian zodiac during this time. The Indian Almanac adjusts to account for this slow but steady precession, and accordingly adjusts the sky maps. These coincide with the sky maps drawn by NASA. Vedic Astrology uses these sky maps to assess impact of the configuration of gravitational fields implied in such maps, at any particular time, on individuals.

The Sun appears to transit from one zodiac sign to another as the Earth rotates around the Sun (every 12 months), in the Sun’s gravitational field. The Sun also appears to pull planets which are close to it: Mercury (revolves around the Sun in 88 Earth days), Venus[1] (224 Earth days) into the zodiac zone it is transiting in. So, for example, Mercury will be seen in Aquarius between February 15th and March 2nd, while Venus will be seen in Aquarius between February 6th and March 1st in 2018.

Meanwhile during the 2018 Aquarian month, Jupiter (16 years to  orbit the Sun) continues to appear in Libra (until mid-October 2018), Saturn (29 year orbit) in Sagittarius (until late January 2020) and the eclipse generating nodal axis (19 year orbit) in Cancer-Capricorn (until late March 2019). Mars (22.5 month orbit) will be seen in Scorpio until March 7th, when it moves to Sagittarius.

Some Predictions for the Aquarian Month

The period between February 13th and March 14th will be generally positive for most ascendants. The ones who would need to be on the alert and take the opportunity to grow:

Cancer: There may be a combination of obstructions and chances for endings in this short period. Be patient and persistent to get over the obstructions. It is like being on an obstacle course, use it as practice for the longer term. You may also get a sense of some things that you may want to end, and that generally means time to explore opening new doors.

Virgo: A mix of conflicts, disturbances and health issues may arise. It may present an opportunity to learn how to respond best to the conflicting situations you find yourself in, even as you are feeling low energy or a bit unwell. Slowing down and yet being agile helps at these times to focus on what is happening.

Pisces: There is a potential for losses, if you find yourself in conflicting situations. This month is an opportunity to be low profile and inward facing. Spend more time on chanting, meditation and solitary walks, contemplative diary writing.

Astro Weather Watch

There is a small Astro squall likely from February 16th to 23rd, as Mars goes through a disturbed force field still present, and created around the nodal axis (I had indicated earlier here that this disturbance would be in place from mid-January to mid-March 2018, along the Cancer-Capricorn axis). Gemini, Libra and Aries may wish to keep a watch during the short period from Feb 16th to 23rd:

Aries: There may be a sense of mental tension and confusion during this short period, potentially giving rise to impulsive harmful actions. Exercise, meditate, sleep and try not to act in a way that you may regret in the longer run.

Gemini: Mentors may not be available when you feel you need support. Also, there may be some investment related losses. Slow down, be patient.

Sagittarius: Expect distance from children, creative pursuits and romance. Be patient, be available, especially to help children.

Do you know the Vedic Astrology ascendant in your birth chart? For a free birth chart, write to jayantkalawar@gmail.com with birth details (date, time, location).

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[1] Venus is the odd planet in the Solar system: the only one that rotates clockwise, around its own axis (all other planets, including Earth rotate anti-clockwise). Venus rotates very slowly – its takes 243 days to rotate around its own axis, which is greater than the 224 days it takes to revolve around the Sun.

Sigh of Relief: Venus Transited into Aquarius February 6th 2018

Venus Crossed into Aquarius February 6th 2018 - Can Be Seen in low in the Evening Sky

Venus Transited into Aquarius February 6th 2018 – Can be seen in the evening sky (Photo by Aleks Dahlberg on Unsplash)

by Jayant Kalawar

You may have read about Astro Weather happening between January 27th and February 10th.

The first part of the weather happened between January 27th and 31st 2018: when Venus’s connection to Earth went through the nodal agitation zone, which I explained in the linked article.

Many of you may have experienced this disturbance in your personal lives during the last week of January 2018. Spouses and partners getting very upset. Not being able to enjoy aesthetics or luxuries.  Generally a time when expression of romance seems to be behind the clouds.

In the news in late January 2018, FLOTUS was shown to be unhappy with POTUS. Did not show up in Davos. Travelled to SOTU address separately and apparently did not applaud as heartily as others. That may be a more public indication of Venus being disturbed. Privately, many of us, especially the sensitive among us, would have likely experienced some sort of Venus related disturbance in that week.

Today (February 6th), Venus moved into Aquarius, far away from the disturbed zone. Most of us may expect relatively better vibes in your spousal / partner interactions (except for Cancer, Virgo and Pisces ascendants, for whom Venus energy may give some low level stress over next 3 weeks, but easily manageable).

Between February 1st and February 5th, Earth’s connection with the Sun went through the nodal agitation zone. Leadership / authority roles may likely be challenged more than usual. Many of us play leadership / authority roles in some areas of life. Parents, for example, have this role when it comes to children. Many of us find ourselves being supervisors of a team, if not big bosses, at work. Expect to get surprising push backs in those authoritative / leadership roles that you take on in your lives, however limited the roles may be.

Mecury-Earth connection will go through the nodal agitation zone between February 7th and 10th. In general, expect misunderstandings due to miscommunications and re-check your spreadsheet work during these four days. Those of you blessed with having Gemini, Leo and Aquarius ascendants may see passing but sudden disturbance in home / house matters (Gemini), career /professional matters (Leo) and general obstructions in whatever they are attempting to achieve (Aquarius).

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21B Case Study: Taurus Rising

Your ascendant is Taurus. You have the potential to undertake courageous initiatives in collaboration with select individuals with nurturing capabilities.

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Moon, Sun, Mercury and Saturn channel benefic energies through you. Venus, Jupiter, Mars, Rahu and Ketu channel energies which may impact you negatively at certain times. There are traditional practices to strengthen your benefic energies and sublimate energies that may impact you negatively. These are discussed and arrived at in individual coaching sessions.

Summary

Your strongest energy is the Moon energy. Moon energy is nourishing and nurturing. Strong Moon energy signifies an individual with affectionate nurturing qualities which flow into all their behaviors. Strength of the Moon energy gives indication of supportive mother (or maternal figures), social behavior, emotional peace, financial solvency, happy married life, inheritance from the mother’s side, as well as love and care in general.  In your case, the Moon also additionally gives you energy to pursue a career by taking up and bringing to fruition initiatives that channel nourishing and nurturing energies. The Moon energy channels very strongly through you. Consider it your best guide and supporter for your career.

Your Saturn energy is also very strong. Saturn drives the direction of your career. This Saturn energy is also likely to guide to finding your long term partner, who may very well be from your career area. This long term partner is likely to hail from a location distant from your birth place. Saturn will expect and motivate you to practice your career with perfection, spirituality, detachment, reliability with discipline, honesty, sincerity, stability, longevity. It gives consistency and enables detailed work over long periods of time.

Thus, the combination of the Moon energy and Saturn energy will be your most reliable guides in your life and career.

Mercury and Jupiter channel relatively weak energies through you. They are required for your career success. Mercury energy provides you with creative and analytical intelligence in your daily career activities. Jupiter energy gives insight into the mysterious and the occult, which you need for the career area you are most likely to choose (something concerning nourishing and nurturing).  You should, therefore, incorporate daily practices and have coaching sessions to strengthen Mercury energy and propitiate Jupiter energy.

Your Sun energy, signifying your father, is well meaning but weakly channeled through you. It is unable to be of support to you. This results in weakness in your ability to acquire and hold home and assets, as well as support from influential people and gains from investments. There are ways of strengthening the Sun energy through practices and coaching, which you should explore.

Your Mars energy is weak and negatively impacts your relationship with your Sun energy. This may cause you to have disturbed sleep and allergies causing inflammation in your body. You should explore ways to propitiate Mars energy.

Your Venus energy acts very negatively for you. It not only weakens your Sun and Mercury energy and is reflected in your sense that you need to substantially increase your ability to channel creative and affectionate energies as well as nourishing and nurturing energies towards children.

21B Case Study: Libra Rising

The ascendant point, in your Jyotish chart, is in the Libra zodiac sign (sidereal chart). This indicates that you are motivated and energized to set and achieve goals for yourself. Your goals are likely to be a mix of acquiring advanced knowledge and peace of mind. Acquiring a home and portfolio of financial assets may also be important to you. When you project your image in an ethical and balanced manner, you will likely come across as an attractive, intelligent, even charismatic, person to people at large. Those in one-on-one personal or business relationship with you, however, may sometimes see you as being passive, not assertive enough with your creative, affectionate and nurturing sensibilities.

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Venus, Jupiter, Saturn, Mars, Moon and the Sun channel positive energies through you. Mercury, Rahu and Ketu channel energies which have negative impact on you from time to time. There are therapeutic ways to strengthen your benefic energies and sublimate energies that may impact you negatively. These are discussed and arrived at in individual coaching sessions.

Summary of Your Karmic Strengths and Areas of Improvement

Overall, you have two very strong positive energies, of Venus and Moon, channeling through you. You have four positive, but weak, energies, of Jupiter, Saturn, Mars and Sun supporting you. You have one negative energy, that of Mercury, which from time to time misleads you through over analysis and wrongly presenting an apparently rational view of the world.

Karmic Strengths

Your Venus energy is positive and strong. It helps you set your goals and project your image. It is most supportive when you are active in:

  • acquiring knowledge
  • achieving peace of mind
  • acquisition and maintaining of home
  • acquiring financial assets portfolio and
  • focusing on your career and social status.

As you begin to accept these as your core goals in life, you will gain clarity on what broad direction you to take in your life.

Your Moon energy is strongly positive and flows to you through your mother. However, the Moon energy is in the shadow of Rahu, the north node of the ecliptic axis, in your birth chart. This causes you to make demands on your mother and from time to time be in conflict with her. Please be aware that the Moon energy, through your mother, gives you guidance in spiritual and material matters, including:

  • Social connections
  • Ethical matters
  • Relationship with authority figures
  • Pursuing advanced studies and
  • Long distance travel to expand and contribute to social connections.

These actions, driven by the Moon energy, open up the potential of you flourishing in your career and reflects positively in your social status.

Connecting directly, through appropriate breath-work, chanting and meditation, with the spiritual aspect of the Devi may ensure this strong Moon energy to continue to support you all your life, and at the same time free your mother’s energies for other ends. It will also help in dissipating the sometimes demanding / conflicting interactions you may have with your mother.